For millions of men across the face of the world, one of the most embarrassing issues they have had to deal with in their personal lives is the one known as premature ejaculation. It has been estimated that 30% of Australian men deal with this issue currently. However, it has long been believed these percentages are low due to being not reported by most sufferers.
These factors include being ashamed and unwilling to seek out help for such a personal problem
For those unfamiliar with the issue, it is when the man ejaculates shortly after penetrating his partner with his penis, usually in less than one minute. It should be noted, however, that there is no set time that the sexual act is supposed to last.
What defines the act climaxing too early is dependent on what both partners in the relationship feel is improper
It is also keen to point out that the acts of orgasm and ejaculation are completely two different things. Just as some women can have pleasurable sex and not be able to orgasm, some men are also able to reach orgasm without ejaculation. The act of ejaculation has 2 phases, the emission (when the semen is mixed), and the expulsion (when the penis tenses at the base and causes the seminal fluid to be released from the body). While this disorder can happen at any age, is is more common in younger men. Younger men, who have less experience at holding back the ability to “come”, will often deal with the issue of premature ejaculation from time to time. There are two specific categories to premature ejaculation, lifelong (where the man has always dealt with it) and acquired (where it happens when it hasn’t before in the past). The causes of premature ejaculation are wide and varied: stress, anxiety, high blood pressure, an overly sensitive penis, and medication side effects are just a few worthy of mention.
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) can also be a cause of premature ejaculation, since the penis goes soft after ejaculation
Of course the results to this can be a huge detriment to a man’s love life, leaving him feeling as if he can’t please his partner. There are generally no medically specific tests to diagnose premature ejaculation, since it is pretty obvious when a man is in distress from having it. Many treatments are available, including pills and devices. If a medical professional believes that the cause is ED, then the ED is treated first to see if that is the link to premature ejaculation.
One of the newer devices out on the market is known as “Prolong”, and its purpose is to desensitize the penis to stimulation, allowing the user to last longer
During clinical trials of the device, it was found that 61% of men who tried it out added nearly 8 minutes to their sexual act before ejaculation. The small vibrating plastic cup which is used under the head of the penis does not come cheap, though, costing 0.
Also often used is a technique where the penis is withdrew shortly before ejaculation and is squeezed under the base of the head until the urge passes.
The start-stop method is another one used, where the thrusting occurs until shortly before coming, and then stopped and started. This is repeated 3 times until the fourth time when the man will finally ejaculate.
Masturbation before sex, at least an hour, also helps to desensitize the penis and allows the man to have sex for a longer period of time as well
Some couples have sought out counseling to work through issues which may be stressing out the man and causing him to come earlier than he needs to.
One drug specifically used in the treatment of premature ejaculation is called Dapoxetine, which is taken 1-3 hours before the sexual act is to occur
This drug falls into the category of SSRI’s, which are mainly used in the treatment of various depressive disorders. This isn’t an issue that men should allow to get in the way of keeping the ones they love happy in the bedroom.
With the correct treatment and seriousness taken to solving the problem, a large majority of men are eventually able to get over the issue of premature ejaculation and resume having a more enjoyable and fulfilling sexual life, being able to please their partner as well as themselves.